It Doesn’t Matter What Anyone Thinks of You
Nobody. Everything is a relationship and you either relay with the other person where it benefits you both or you don’t. Then you either develop the relationship better and communicate in a way that starts to benefit each of you more and more, or you don’t. This is what relationships are for.
It doesn’t matter what either party thinks about the other. It only matters what you do. We have to obliterate this idea of “what do they think of me?” It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you. It only matters what is actually done. The rest is a lot of talk and mental masturbation. What’s worse is that almost every time, when one thinks about what others think of them, it stops them creatively.
There’s a great teaching from The Master, Yogi Bhajan. He called it The Three C’s: “When you compare and compete you become confused.” And this is at the heart of “what do they think of me?”
The Other’s Shoes
Now you might get a reaction from someone that clues you into the fact that you acted wrongly. That’s called second position, or putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. You check yourself and if you’re solid in yourself you will either say, yes I acted wrong, or no I did not. Or you might get praise from someone about something– verbally or visually. What happens so often is that people pick up on, or worse, imagine what another person is thinking things about them. Then comes a reaction to what you think someone is thinking. That something is outside of you. And you change your behavior based on that outside stimulus.
Do And BE YOU
We need to be absolutely solid in who we are as a spirit in a human body; that all of our guidance, all of our input comes from with-in. Then you can be confident and relate to people accordingly. It doesn’t matter what your mother thinks, it doesn’t matter what your father thinks, it doesn’t matter what your teacher thinks, it doesn’t matter what your friends think, it doesn’t matter what your enemies think. It doesn’t even matter what you think. Thoughts are constantly filling the mind– way more than you can even process. Most people spend their lives chasing ghosts of the past or phantoms of the future. Those come from thoughts. Tell the truth, you don’t actually think because there are too many thoughts to process.
So What Then?
It only matters that you are coming from your spirit. It is an art to act out of intuition. To know in your gut and then your whole energetic being what’s what. Then you are relating to people from your best, most confident self. If that doesn’t happen, then you check yourself and adjust. Keep upping your practice. Catch that? I’ll say it again. Keep upping your practice. Then with each new experience of relationship, you relate to people from your intuitive self, which comes from the flow of your spirit and is the best, most confident self. Things start to change.
It’s Not What Anyone Thinks, It’s What They DO That Brings Profit
It doesn’t matter what any of those people think. It only matters what is done in relationship with them and if it is profitable for both parties. Money has very little to do with this. Profit just means a gain. After all, it’s all energy transfer and relay. Money is just a medium for that exchange. At the end of the day you either gain energy or you squander it. Profit just means a gain of energy. The whole world is a little hooked on money anyway. That’s just the way it is right now. However, was the profit satisfactory though? Did you get satisfied in the transaction? That could just be a thank you note or the satisfaction of having given someone a meal. Whether it’s money or non monetary profit and satisfaction, there must be a profit. The human must profit, despite what you’ve been told.
It may be a business transaction, or it may be a personal transaction. Life is transactional anyway. What did you get and what did you give and was that profitable for both parties? Some people only try to take. Some people only give out of insecurity. Giving and receiving is at the heart of relay and relay is the root of relationship. When we are all giving and receiving as our best selves then we are infinitely profitable, both personally and professionally. If you can achieve that, the financial part just shows up as though God was your accountant.
The first way you get to relaying your best self, time after time, is to drop any thought, concern or idea about “what other people think of you.”